My return to
Mayo Clinic
It is with heartfelt gratitude that I share an update on my health journey: I am thrilled to report that I am going on 18 months cancer-free! I have always wondered what it would feel like to say that. I’ve rejoiced with others when they have made similar proclamations, and now I am able t do the same. So, so, good!
I feel genuinely fantastic, enjoying renewed energy and vitality every day. These are good days and I am exceedingly grateful. And I want to add that this milestone isn’t just a testament to the incredible medical care I received; it is proof of the power of your unwavering prayers and support, which have literally carried me and Carol through every step of this journey. We never take this progress for granted and thank God continually for this season of health and strength.
As many of you know, maintaining good health requires diligent follow-up. That said, it’s time for us to prepare for our next return trip to the Mayo Clinic for routine scans and consultations. While these appointments are now a familiar part of our rhythm, they remain crucial checkpoints. We go with hopeful hearts, trusting in the skill of the doctors and the providence of God, but also with the understanding that these are important moments of reassessment.
Despite feeling physically great, there is always a certain amount of anxiety and trepidation that accompanies these return visits. We call it ‘scanxiety’—the waiting for results, the memories of previous difficult days, and the underlying worry that never completely dissipates when you’ve faced a serious diagnosis.
As many of you know, it’s an emotional roller coaster, and while we rely on God’s faithfulness, we are also human. Preparing for the journey and the testing brings a unique kind of mental strain that can be somewhat unsettling. With this in mind, we would be incredibly grateful if you would lift us up in prayer over the next week.
Specifically, please pray for peace and calm to cover me as I go through the tests, and for the results to confirm continued health. Please also pray for Carol, whose strength and steadfastness is often tested most during these periods of waiting.
We do trust completely in the Lord’s plan, but we appreciate the covering of your prayers for supernatural courage and emotional rest during this important time.
And may I just say again, thank you all so much for standing with us.
Soul Care with
Pastor Jenn
To Pastor (verb): to shepherd, advise, and guide into a place of deeper spiritual understanding
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.
Romans 15:13
“Fill you with all joy and peace in believing” – it’s an interesting phrase. It sounds exciting and encouraging. I’m sure that’s a big part of its purpose in Scripture. On any given day, I want to be full of joy and peace in believing. I’m sure you do as well. It’s the “peace in believing” part which gets tricky.
It feels like human nature to hedge our bets. Risk feels…well…risky. Especially when it comes to truly life-altering circumstances. In those moments when the stakes are really high, it can be easier to lock our dreams away for a day when the odds seem more in our favor. And I do think there are seasons where we have to guard our hearts and minds. What this scripture, in my opinion, is getting at is reminding ourselves of the giver of the hope. “May the God of hope fill you.”
For the last almost 10 years, I’ve been protecting my heart against the joy of the return of a loved one, because it was the safer option. It was a survival technique. It’s been how I get from one day to the next without falling apart over and over again. As the return draws near, I have to remind myself to feel joy again. The long wait is almost over. But, in truth, I could have surrendered more to the power of the God of hope filling me than I was brave enough to allow. There’s a chance there was more joy waiting for me in those years than I experienced.
My prayer for you this week is you have the courage to be filled with joy and peace in believing and from that would flow abounding hope. May the God of hope fill you – because He can, after all.
Caregivers Corner with
Kathi Peters
Caregiver (verb): One who provides direct support for one who is in need of practical help, encouragement and love.
When your loved one doesn’t want to talk about their cancer, I have learned that the best thing you can do is respect their wishes.
Focus on simply being present with them. That takes practice — especially if you’re someone who likes to talk things through. You may need to find new ways to connect that nurture both of you without feeling intrusive.
If you’re naturally more talkative, it’s especially important to take care of your own emotional needs. Lean on friends, family, or a counselor so you have a safe place to share your feelings.
If they’re open to it, make a plan with your loved one about how to handle emotions and conversations — but know that what works one day might not work the next. If they pull back, ask God to help you respond with grace instead of offense.
Above all, keep praying for wisdom to communicate in ways that bring comfort and connection.
God really does hear every prayer.
Worship Moment
with Joel Salabarria
To Inspire (verb): to fill someone with the urge or ability to do or feel something, especially to do something creative.
Song: Center – Live (Spotify and Apple Music)
Band: Bethel Worship
From: “We Must Respond (Live)” (2022)
When life feels scattered and our hearts are pulled in many directions, this song invites us to return to what matters most: Jesus is our centering place.
Hasn’t it always been about the same thing?
Lord, bring us back to simple things…
You, be the center of it all.
In busyness, the highs, the lows, He remains the anchor. Therefore, the invite is simple: let your heart belong to Him.
My heart belongs to You;
My Savior, all in all;
You’re the one I hold on to.
For the beauty of Your name
My soul will live to say
Jesus, I love you!
Teach us to discern the momentWhen to serve and when to sit here at Your feetKeep us awake to what’s importantJust like Mary chose the better thing
Whatever you’re facing today uncertainty, transition, growth let this truth settle deep: He’s not just part of your story; He is your foundation. So, take a moment. Quiet the noise. Let Him be the center all over again.
Piet's Ponderings
To Ponder (verb): to think about something carefully, especially before making a decision or reaching a conclusion.
Do we have the eyes to see it?
I have often heard people’s sincere lament: “Why didn’t God intervene here?” or “Why doesn’t He do more about that?”
When people are experiencing profound loss or pain, this line of questioning culminates in the most perplexing philosophical question of all: “Why does God allow suffering?”
I will readily confess that I am not smart enough to provide an answer to that question in any kind of truly satisfying way. I may have thoughts on it, but they rarely bring genuine resolution to the mystery of pain.
However, this much I have learned, and that is that we often allow those weighty, unanswerable questions to keep us from noticing the many ways God does intervene. We overlook the daily, practical reality of His protection, the reliability of His provision, and the powerful ways He uses us—even as imperfect vessels—for good in the world.
Now, I am not suggesting that these philosophical conversations are unimportant; because they are! But can we not also concede that as humans we have limited capacity in what we can fully comprehend about the great mysteries of life? And if we wait for a more complete and satisfying explanation to suffering, we actually risk spiritual paralysis.
Therefore, I want to humbly (but emphatically) suggest that we not let our lack of understanding concerning the harder, more abstract questions of faith blind us to the obvious, faithful work He is continuously accomplishing on our behalf.
Nutrition Nuggets with
Suzanna Hake
To Nourish (verb): the act or process of being nourished.
Last week I talked a bit about the benefits of heat therapy – today I want to talk about the other side of the spectrum: The Cold Plunge Craze: Why Getting Cold Is Good for You
If the idea of jumping into icy water makes you shiver just thinking about it, you’re not alone…but don’t scroll past just yet! Cold therapy is having a big wellness moment for good reason, and it’s not just for athletes or thrill seekers.
When your body is exposed to cold, it responds by increasing circulation, firing up your metabolism, and releasing a powerful wave of feel-good chemicals like dopamine and norepinephrine. The result? A natural energy boost, sharper focus, and often a surprising sense of calm afterward.
Cold immersion also helps reduce inflammation and strengthen the immune system, which is why many people say it’s their favorite way to start the day (after the initial shock wears off, of course!).
You don’t need an ice bath to experience the benefits. Try finishing your shower with 30 seconds of cold water, splash your face with icy water in the morning, or dip your hands and feet in a cold basin to start small.
Wellness Tip: After cold exposure, sip on something warming like ginger, lemon, and honey tea to soothe your system while helping your body reheat gently.
Next week, we’ll bring it all together and explore contrast therapy, alternating hot and cold for the ultimate recovery and relaxation combo.
Word of Encouragement
Keep Going...
To Encourage (verb): to give support and hope to someone so they will do or continue to do something
Isn’t it funny how the motivation for our health and fitness routines constantly ebbs and flows? We know consistency is crucial, but staying at is the most challenging part. I’ve wrestled with this for years, and after multiple starts/stops, here are a few things I’ve learned that have been serving me well.
1. Acknowledge the Inherent Difficulty
We have to stop beating ourselves up—it’s hard because it’s hard. Accepting this reality frees us from the cycle of shame. Every successful health journey includes failure, false starts, restarts, and seasons where absolutely nothing seems to click. This is not a moral failing; it is simply part of the process.
2. Locate Your Personal Fuel Source
Every person has a unique motivational source, and trying to copy what works for others will always lead to burnout. We need to identify what truly feeds our drive to stay at it.
- For some, it’s intellectual: getting better information and understanding the why.
- For others, it’s relational: accountability with a friend or a group.
- For others still, it’s visual: tracking progress with stats or before/after photos.
It is critical to be honest about what moves YOU and then build your routine around that fuel.
3. Master the Art of Habit Stacking
This has been so key for me: Consistency isn’t about willpower; it’s about making choices that require zero thought. Using habit stacking has been a game changer (the process of attaching a new habit to an existing one). For example: “After I brew my morning coffee (existing habit), I will immediately do ten minutes of stretching (new habit).” Once the routine is established, I just put my head down and do it. This has kept me from overthinking the decision. I know what to do and when to do it…
4. Stay in the Game (Keep Tweaking)
The only true failure is quitting. The goal is simply to stay at it. Keep tweaking your diet, keep restarting your workout, and celebrate every small victory—even if it’s just drinking your water goal for the day.
For most of us, this is a journey full of stumbles and broken promises, and that’s perfectly okay.
You are human after all.
I am walking this out with you, my friends!
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Thank you in advance for your prayerful consideration.
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Experiencing a cancer diagnosis is obviously a profound personal setback, and the added weight of self-blame can make it feel even heavier. While it’s natural to reflect on past choices and wonder if you have contributed to our own illness, getting stuck in a cycle of self-condemnation is a separate matter altogether. It’s crucial to acknowledge these feelings of guilt and remorse without letting them define you or impede your journey toward healing. This involves taking a thoughtful and compassionate approach to your past.
The first step in processing this guilt is to separate accountability from condemnation. It’s helpful to own the reality that some past behaviors may have been unhealthy, but this is an entirely different concept from believing you deserve this illness. You can acknowledge, for example, that a long-term smoking habit increased your risk of lung cancer without believing you are a bad person or that this is a form of punishment. True ownership means recognizing the consequences of past actions and committing to better choices moving forward. This is a path of learning and growth, not a cycle of shame.
The goal – and this is really important – is to shift your focus from “Why was I so foolish?” to “What can I do now?”
Next, it is vital to learn and practice self-compassion and forgiveness. Think of it this way: You wouldn’t speak to a friend with a similar diagnosis in a harsh and condemning way; instead you would offer them kindness and empathy. You must extend that same grace to yourself. Forgiveness isn’t about excusing past mistakes; it’s about releasing yourself from the burden of carrying them. You are a person who made certain choices – and yes, maybe some were unwise and irresponsible – but your diagnosis is not meant to define your worth. I am speaking to you as one who has had to work through these very same feelings.
I have resumed my journaling practice to process and release feelings of guilt. I also rely on spiritual friends and counselors for support, as they serve as vital extensions of grace and peace. When I feel stuck, they provide valuable insight and strength, helping me navigate my journey with greater clarity and compassion.
In summary, processing the guilt associated with a cancer diagnosis is a journey of intentional release and radical self-compassion. The key is to avoid the trap of self-blame by embracing accountability and then choosing to extend grace to yourself. By separating past actions from your current worth, you can free yourself from the weight of condemnation and focus your energy on healing, both emotionally and physically. Ultimately, this allows you to reclaim your own narrative and move forward with purpose and peace.
So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus…
Romans 8:1
Soul Care with
Pastor Jenn
To Pastor (verb): to shepherd, advise, and guide into a place of deeper spiritual understanding
“And Boaz said to the elders and all the people, “You are witnesses this day that I have bought all that was Elimelech’s, and all that was Chilion’s and Mahlon’s, from the hand of Naomi. Moreover, Ruth the Moabitess, the widow of Mahlon, I have acquired as my wife, to perpetuate the name of the dead through his inheritance, that the name of the dead may not be cut off from among his brethren and from his position at the gate. You are witnesses this day.”
Ruth 4:9-10
I’ve been studying the book of Ruth for a few weeks now. If you haven’t visited it lately, it really is such a beautiful, engaging story. I encourage you to go back and read it. The thing that keeps stirring in my mind is the idea Boaz was a “kinsman-redeemer”. Now, I admit I don’t understand all the ins and outs of this custom but what I do know is he had the responsibility within his family lineage to step in and care for a deceased relative’s family. He would keep watch care and provide for that family. It’s quite a role, honestly. Quite a responsibility.
The interesting part of the story is who he redeemed. Yes, he redeemed Naomi. And consider all he redeemed her from – a life alone, poor, bitter, without a husband or children. In every way that matters, he redeemed her future. But he also redeemed Ruth, who wasn’t even from his tribe or culture – or faith, for that matter. But he was gracious and saw a picture so much bigger than even Ruth herself imagined. He redeemed her past and her present and secured her a beautiful future full of children and grandchildren. It really is something.
As beautiful as Boaz’s redemption was, it points to an even greater redemption. It’s also a foreshadowing of all Jesus would do for us. He is OUR kinsman-redeemer. The only one who could possibly save us from our past, stand with us in our present and give us a future worth living – Jesus did it all. In light of the story of Ruth, I’m so in awe (again) of Jesus. I pray this week you would have that sense of awe too, knowing that your kinsman-redeemer holds every part of your life in his hands and is planning extraordinary, beautiful things for you.
Caregivers Corner With
Four Things to Remember
Caregiver (verb): One who provides direct support for one who is in need of practical help, encouragement and love.
When you’re helping someone else, it’s easy to get so caught up in their needs that you neglect your own. But as the old saying goes, you can’t pour from an empty cup. To be truly effective in helping others, you have to prioritize your own well-being.
Here are four things to remember to take care of yourself:
1. Self-Care Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary
Change your mindset. Self-care isn’t a luxury; it’s a vital part of caring for someone else. Think of it like a marathon – you can’t finish the race if you don’t refuel. Simple, consistent actions like getting enough sleep, eating well, and taking short breaks can prevent burnout and help you stay strong for the long haul.
2. Set and Enforce Clear Boundaries
Be realistic about how much you can give and communicate those limits. It’s okay to say no to certain requests or to take a break when you need it. By setting healthy boundaries, you protect your own emotional and physical health and prevent resentment. You’re teaching others how to treat you and ensuring your support is sustainable.
3. Ask for Help and Accept It
You are not meant to do this alone. Reach out to friends, family, or support groups. Many people want to help but don’t know how. Be specific. Instead of saying, “I need help,” try saying, “Can you bring a meal on Tuesday?” or “Could you sit with them for an hour so I can go for a walk?” When help is offered, accept it gracefully.
4. Find Moments of Joy and Connection
It’s easy to get lost in the challenges, but it’s crucial to intentionally seek out joy and stay connected to things that matter to you. Whether it’s a hobby you love, a favorite song, or a few minutes of quiet reflection, these small moments recharge your emotional batteries. Remember who you are outside of this role and make time to connect with friends or family who can support you.
Worship Moment
with Joel Salabarria
To Inspire (verb): to fill someone with the urge or ability to do or feel something, especially to do something creative.
Song: Back To You (Spotify and Apple Music)
Band: Michael Mudoh
From: “Back To You” (2025)
Sometimes the path feels unclear, but grace was guiding you the whole time. Every detour, every delay and even the silence, was God gently leading you back to His heart. Not because you earned it, or had pity for you, but because He never stopped loving you.
Let’s get back to HIM!
What if the prayers I prayed
Weren’t really meant for me
Cause My heart can lead me astray
You know what I really need
And the times that You told me to wait
Cause there’s more for me to see
So now I see
Lord it was You
Leading me to You
And I know it’s true
There’s nothing I can do
With you
You always lead back to You
Please help us out…
Take the Survey
To Encourage (noun): to give support and hope to someone so that they will do or continue to do something.
As we begin our third year of sharing stories through the Black Sheep Messenger and The Healing Chronicle, we’d love to hear from you. Yes… even you! Thank you for being willing…
Your feedback will help us understand what content is most helpful and meaningful to you, and what you’d like to see more of in the future.
If you haven’t already done so, please take a few moments to answer our quick, six-question survey. Your thoughts are greatly appreciated and will help shape the future of our newsletters.
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Nutrition Nuggets with
Suzanna Hake
To Nourish (verb): the act or process of being nourished.
Time for another of my favorite recipes, and with football season here, this is a snack favorite. Enjoy (guilt free) with MASA seed oil free Tortilla Chips!
Avocado Hummus Recipe
Ingredients
– 1 cup cooked chickpeas
– 1/2 avocado
–
1 clove of garlic
– 1 small bunch of cilantro
– 1/4 onion
– 1 Tbsp salt
– Juice of 1 lemon
– a pinch of cayenne pepper
– 1/2 Tbsp olive oil
Add all ingredients into a blender. Squeeze in the lemon juice, add salt and blend with water until you reach a creamy consistency.
The Serenity Prayer
To Pray (verb): Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. (Philippians 4:6)
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
While many are familiar with the Serenity Prayer, not many are familiar with its history. Over the years the prayer has been attributed to several great Christian thinkers including Thomas Aquinas, Augustine and Francis of Assis, but it was actually written less than a century ago in a cottage in western Massachusetts.
Reinhold Niebuhr was born the son of a German American pastor in Wright City, Missouri. He later became a pastor himself, serving a congregation in Detroit before moving to New York to teach at Union Theological Seminary, where he gained recognition as a theologian, activist and social critic. His brother, H. Robert Niebuhr, a well-known ethicist and theologian is best known as a founder of Christian Realism an approach to ethics grounded in the insight that human beings are called to strive toward their highest moral ideals, while recognizing our inability to fully achieve them. Richard writings deeply influenced his brother Reinhold who also had a poetic flair. And his infamous prayer beautifully captured the heart of Christian realism.
Piet's Ponderings
To Ponder (verb): to think about something carefully, especially before making a decision or reaching a conclusion.
I believe that starting the day with intention is crucial for setting ourselves up for success.
And I will concede that a good cup of coffee certainly helps, however, I’m becoming increasingly convinced that it takes more than that to prepare for the day’s challenges.
In fact, I have become very particular about thoughts and practices that begin my day.
My current routine is built around a very meaningful set of rituals. And yes, it starts with a good cup of coffee, but also includes reading, praying, stretching, plunging, and walking.
Beyond these physical practices, I find it helpful (even strategic) to make a definitive personal commitment (early in the day) to stay alert to the leadings and promptings of the Spirit throughout the day.
Because my daily purpose must be about something more than just making check marks on a to-do list; it must be about being present, open, and responsive to what truly matters.
Helping people…
Cultivating character…
Engaging in redemptive action…
Gaining the applause of heaven…
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Support the work!
The Van Waarde Foundation underwrites and supports a variety of projects related to supporting, educating, and encouraging fellow cancer warriors and their families.
Thank you in advance for your prayerful consideration.
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Experiencing a cancer diagnosis is obviously a profound personal setback, and the added weight of self-blame can make it feel even heavier. While it’s natural to reflect on past choices and wonder if you have contributed to our own illness, getting stuck in a cycle of self-condemnation is a separate matter altogether. It’s crucial to acknowledge these feelings of guilt and remorse without letting them define you or impede your journey toward healing. This involves taking a thoughtful and compassionate approach to your past.
The first step in processing this guilt is to separate accountability from condemnation. It’s helpful to own the reality that some past behaviors may have been unhealthy, but this is an entirely different concept from believing you deserve this illness. You can acknowledge, for example, that a long-term smoking habit increased your risk of lung cancer without believing you are a bad person or that this is a form of punishment. True ownership means recognizing the consequences of past actions and committing to better choices moving forward. This is a path of learning and growth, not a cycle of shame.
The goal – and this is really important – is to shift your focus from “Why was I so foolish?” to “What can I do now?”
Next, it is vital to learn and practice self-compassion and forgiveness. Think of it this way: You wouldn’t speak to a friend with a similar diagnosis in a harsh and condemning way; instead you would offer them kindness and empathy. You must extend that same grace to yourself. Forgiveness isn’t about excusing past mistakes; it’s about releasing yourself from the burden of carrying them. You are a person who made certain choices – and yes, maybe some were unwise and irresponsible – but your diagnosis is not meant to define your worth. I am speaking to you as one who has had to work through these very same feelings.
I have resumed my journaling practice to process and release feelings of guilt. I also rely on spiritual friends and counselors for support, as they serve as vital extensions of grace and peace. When I feel stuck, they provide valuable insight and strength, helping me navigate my journey with greater clarity and compassion.
In summary, processing the guilt associated with a cancer diagnosis is a journey of intentional release and radical self-compassion. The key is to avoid the trap of self-blame by embracing accountability and then choosing to extend grace to yourself. By separating past actions from your current worth, you can free yourself from the weight of condemnation and focus your energy on healing, both emotionally and physically. Ultimately, this allows you to reclaim your own narrative and move forward with purpose and peace.
So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus…
Romans 8:1
Soul Care with
Pastor Jenn
To Pastor (verb): to shepherd, advise, and guide into a place of deeper spiritual understanding
“And Boaz said to the elders and all the people, “You are witnesses this day that I have bought all that was Elimelech’s, and all that was Chilion’s and Mahlon’s, from the hand of Naomi. Moreover, Ruth the Moabitess, the widow of Mahlon, I have acquired as my wife, to perpetuate the name of the dead through his inheritance, that the name of the dead may not be cut off from among his brethren and from his position at the gate. You are witnesses this day.”
Ruth 4:9-10
I’ve been studying the book of Ruth for a few weeks now. If you haven’t visited it lately, it really is such a beautiful, engaging story. I encourage you to go back and read it. The thing that keeps stirring in my mind is the idea Boaz was a “kinsman-redeemer”. Now, I admit I don’t understand all the ins and outs of this custom but what I do know is he had the responsibility within his family lineage to step in and care for a deceased relative’s family. He would keep watch care and provide for that family. It’s quite a role, honestly. Quite a responsibility.
The interesting part of the story is who he redeemed. Yes, he redeemed Naomi. And consider all he redeemed her from – a life alone, poor, bitter, without a husband or children. In every way that matters, he redeemed her future. But he also redeemed Ruth, who wasn’t even from his tribe or culture – or faith, for that matter. But he was gracious and saw a picture so much bigger than even Ruth herself imagined. He redeemed her past and her present and secured her a beautiful future full of children and grandchildren. It really is something.
As beautiful as Boaz’s redemption was, it points to an even greater redemption. It’s also a foreshadowing of all Jesus would do for us. He is OUR kinsman-redeemer. The only one who could possibly save us from our past, stand with us in our present and give us a future worth living – Jesus did it all. In light of the story of Ruth, I’m so in awe (again) of Jesus. I pray this week you would have that sense of awe too, knowing that your kinsman-redeemer holds every part of your life in his hands and is planning extraordinary, beautiful things for you.
Caregivers Corner With
Four Things to Remember
Caregiver (verb): One who provides direct support for one who is in need of practical help, encouragement and love.
When you’re helping someone else, it’s easy to get so caught up in their needs that you neglect your own. But as the old saying goes, you can’t pour from an empty cup. To be truly effective in helping others, you have to prioritize your own well-being.
Here are four things to remember to take care of yourself:
1. Self-Care Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary
Change your mindset. Self-care isn’t a luxury; it’s a vital part of caring for someone else. Think of it like a marathon – you can’t finish the race if you don’t refuel. Simple, consistent actions like getting enough sleep, eating well, and taking short breaks can prevent burnout and help you stay strong for the long haul.
2. Set and Enforce Clear Boundaries
Be realistic about how much you can give and communicate those limits. It’s okay to say no to certain requests or to take a break when you need it. By setting healthy boundaries, you protect your own emotional and physical health and prevent resentment. You’re teaching others how to treat you and ensuring your support is sustainable.
3. Ask for Help and Accept It
You are not meant to do this alone. Reach out to friends, family, or support groups. Many people want to help but don’t know how. Be specific. Instead of saying, “I need help,” try saying, “Can you bring a meal on Tuesday?” or “Could you sit with them for an hour so I can go for a walk?” When help is offered, accept it gracefully.
4. Find Moments of Joy and Connection
It’s easy to get lost in the challenges, but it’s crucial to intentionally seek out joy and stay connected to things that matter to you. Whether it’s a hobby you love, a favorite song, or a few minutes of quiet reflection, these small moments recharge your emotional batteries. Remember who you are outside of this role and make time to connect with friends or family who can support you.
Worship Moment
with Joel Salabarria
To Inspire (verb): to fill someone with the urge or ability to do or feel something, especially to do something creative.
Song: Back To You (Spotify and Apple Music)
Band: Michael Mudoh
From: “Back To You” (2025)
Sometimes the path feels unclear, but grace was guiding you the whole time. Every detour, every delay and even the silence, was God gently leading you back to His heart. Not because you earned it, or had pity for you, but because He never stopped loving you.
Let’s get back to HIM!
What if the prayers I prayed
Weren’t really meant for me
Cause My heart can lead me astray
You know what I really need
And the times that You told me to wait
Cause there’s more for me to see
So now I see
Lord it was You
Leading me to You
And I know it’s true
There’s nothing I can do
With you
You always lead back to You
Please help us out…
Take the Survey
To Encourage (noun): to give support and hope to someone so that they will do or continue to do something.
As we begin our third year of sharing stories through the Black Sheep Messenger and The Healing Chronicle, we’d love to hear from you. Yes… even you! Thank you for being willing…
Your feedback will help us understand what content is most helpful and meaningful to you, and what you’d like to see more of in the future.
If you haven’t already done so, please take a few moments to answer our quick, six-question survey. Your thoughts are greatly appreciated and will help shape the future of our newsletters.
Link HERE.
Nutrition Nuggets with
Suzanna Hake
To Nourish (verb): the act or process of being nourished.
Time for another of my favorite recipes, and with football season here, this is a snack favorite. Enjoy (guilt free) with MASA seed oil free Tortilla Chips!
Avocado Hummus Recipe
Ingredients
– 1 cup cooked chickpeas
– 1/2 avocado
– 1 clove of garlic
– 1 small bunch of cilantro
– 1/4 onion
– 1 Tbsp salt
– Juice of 1 lemon
– a pinch of cayenne pepper
– 1/2 Tbsp olive oil
Add all ingredients into a blender. Squeeze in the lemon juice, add salt and blend with water until you reach a creamy consistency.
The Serenity Prayer
To Pray (verb): Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. (Philippians 4:6)
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
While many are familiar with the Serenity Prayer, not many are familiar with its history. Over the years the prayer has been attributed to several great Christian thinkers including Thomas Aquinas, Augustine and Francis of Assis, but it was actually written less than a century ago in a cottage in western Massachusetts.
Reinhold Niebuhr was born the son of a German American pastor in Wright City, Missouri. He later became a pastor himself, serving a congregation in Detroit before moving to New York to teach at Union Theological Seminary, where he gained recognition as a theologian, activist and social critic. His brother, H. Robert Niebuhr, a well-known ethicist and theologian is best known as a founder of Christian Realism an approach to ethics grounded in the insight that human beings are called to strive toward their highest moral ideals, while recognizing our inability to fully achieve them. Richard writings deeply influenced his brother Reinhold who also had a poetic flair. And his infamous prayer beautifully captured the heart of Christian realism.
Piet's Ponderings
To Ponder (verb): to think about something carefully, especially before making a decision or reaching a conclusion.
I believe that starting the day with intention is crucial for setting ourselves up for success.
And I will concede that a good cup of coffee certainly helps, however, I’m becoming increasingly convinced that it takes more than that to prepare for the day’s challenges.
In fact, I have become very particular about thoughts and practices that begin my day.
My current routine is built around a very meaningful set of rituals. And yes, it starts with a good cup of coffee, but also includes reading, praying, stretching, plunging, and walking.
Beyond these physical practices, I find it helpful (even strategic) to make a definitive personal commitment (early in the day) to stay alert to the leadings and promptings of the Spirit throughout the day.
Because my daily purpose must be about something more than just making check marks on a to-do list; it must be about being present, open, and responsive to what truly matters.
Helping people…
Cultivating character…
Engaging in redemptive action…
Gaining the applause of heaven…
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