One of the Hardest Parts of the Journey..
Advocating for Yourself
It’s an exhausting reality for many cancer patients: navigating complex medical decisions while simultaneously managing the emotional and physical toll of treatment. There are moments when the demands—from appointments and treatments to advice from well-meaning loved ones and medical professionals—keep piling up, leaving you to wonder if anyone truly sees the immense cost it’s taking on you personally.
What’s really at the heart of the dilemma is this constant negotiation between what’s recommended and what feels right for you can feel like walking a tightrope. And as complicated as ity may seem this is the exact time to commit to the essential task of self-respect, making sure your own needs aren’t forgotten in the rush of medical necessity.
For me, learning to advocate for myself was a serious cut against the grain. For those of us who tend to put others’ needs first, acknowledging our limitations and drawing boundaries can feel totally counterintuitive, even selfish. However, true self-advocacy isn’t about being rigid or unhelpful; it’s about honoring both our role as an active participant in our healing journey and listening to the expert advice (that we may feel inclined to ignore). In short, it is a commitment to creating a symbiotic relationship with our care team, where the best medical input is harmonized with our unique physical and emotional capacity. This means shifting our mindset from passively receiving care to actively collaborating in it.
When the recommendations of your doctor stretch you beyond your current physical or emotional limits, finding your voice begins with preparation and clarity. Before your next appointment, take time to reflect on what you can realistically commit to. Ask yourself: How will this treatment or recommendation affect my daily life, energy levels, and mental health? Write down your most pressing concerns and any alternative approaches you’d like to discuss. Don’t be afraid to use assertive, yet respectful, language. Phrases like, “I understand the urgency of this, but I’m concerned that a five-day-a-week schedule will lead to burnout. Can we explore a three-day option instead?” open the door for a productive discussion, not a confrontation.
The core of effective self-advocacy lies in communicating your personal non-negotiables. Your doctor has the medical expertise, but you are the expert of your own body and experience. If a particular side effect is unbearable, if a schedule makes your anxiety spike, or if the sheer volume of demands is crushing your spirit, these must be brought to the forefront. It is about honoring the fact that while you must commit to the task of fighting cancer, you also must commit to the task of living well during that fight. Maintaining personal agency means being honest about what you can manage, because stretching yourself too thin will ultimately hinder, not help, your overall recovery and mental resilience.
Ultimately, finding your voice in these demanding scenarios is about creating a space where you are seen and heard as a whole person, not just a set of symptoms. It’s about ensuring your needs and well-being are part of the medical equation. Your journey is complex, and your commitment to yourself should be as strong as your commitment to treatment. By communicating your boundaries and needs clearly, you are not obstructing your care—you are making it stronger, more sustainable, and ultimately, more yours.
Question to ponder: How will you commit to honoring your own limitations during your next conversation with your care team?
Soul Care with
Pastor Jenn
To Pastor (verb): to shepherd, advise, and guide into a place of deeper spiritual understanding
But Peter said, “I have no silver and gold, but what I do have I give to you. In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, rise up and walk!”
I’ve been thinking about miracles quite a bit this week. A couple of days ago my husband reached out to our family asking for a prayer for a migraine that had been going on for a couple of days. My mom in turn sent a prayer via text asking for a miracle – for his pain to be relieved.
And it got me thinking…
The thought I had was “It’s only a miracle to us. To God, it’s not even hard.”
Now, I know there are a multitude of feelings and opinions that come with a statement like that. And I certainly don’t discount any of them. So, without straying too far into controversary, I do believe the Lord was trying to tell me something that day.
He wanted me to know that even the things that feel as though it would take a miracle are within His realm of possibility. For me, that was just the encouragement I needed to pray with fresh faith and courage about some situations going on in my life.
Maybe you need that encouragement this week too. Maybe you’ve prayed for a miracle a hundred times. Know that I see you and I understand the discouragement that comes with that experience. But also know that it’s only miraculous to us, for God it’s who He is.
He’s still able.
He’s still moving.
He still cares.
And I hope you know that this week – more than ever.
Caregivers Corner With
Kathi Peters
Caregiver (verb): One who provides direct support for one who is in need of practical help, encouragement and love.
As caregivers, I have discovered that many of us find comfort in our routines — our things, our schedule, our way of doing things.
Therefore, getting away, even for a little R&R, can feel like so much work. Packing supplements, the water ionizer, our hydrogen machine, and even the homemade bread I bake for David — all the little things that support his healing — all of it, can feel overwhelming.
Sometimes it seems easier to just stay home.
But, thankfully, we didn’t.
We headed north!
On Nantucket, we decided to walk instead of taking the bus and we ran into an obstacle in the road! Thankfully, a kind landscaper gave us a lift across. It reminded me that the getting ready part of a trip often feels like that same kind of obstacle.
But once you’re there, and you see the beauty: the ocean sparkling, whales surfacing beside the boat, people gasping in awe, you quickly realize how needed the break really was.
Getting away helps you reconnect. It gives you space to breathe, and when you do, you get to see your loved one (and your joint journey) with fresh eyes and renewed compassion.
Worship Moment
with Joel Salabarria
To Inspire (verb): to fill someone with the urge or ability to do or feel something, especially to do something creative.
Song: Moving Forward (Spotify and Apple Music)
Band: Ricardo Sanchez
From: “It’s Not Over” (2011)
This song is a powerful reminder that we are not defined by our past. In Christ, we are invited to leave behind what once held us back and walk confidently into something new.
“I’m not going back,
I’m moving ahead.
My past is over in You.”
This simple truth brings freedom. No matter what you’ve walked through, your story doesn’t end with where you have been. God offers a fresh start—one filled with grace, purpose, and hope.
“You have risen with all power in Your hands.
You have given me a second chance.”
Because of what Jesus has done, we can live with confidence and peace. The same power that raised Him is at work in your life today. You are free to step forward, not in fear, but in faith. Let this be your encouragement today: You are not stuck. You are not disqualified. God is doing something new—keep moving forward.
Piet's Ponderings
To Ponder (verb): to think about something carefully, especially before making a decision or reaching a conclusion.
Early in my pastoral calling, I realized I was a “word guy.” It was both a gift from God and a skill I proactively cultivated. It eventually led me to create a personal mission statement: “To be a highly effective communicator of God’s truth.”
I genuinely believe in the power of words—that the right ones, at the right time, can deliver healing, strength, and hope. Yet, every gift has a shadow side. For me, that shadow is the default belief that every challenge can be solved with “the right words,” and that is simply untrue.
This cancer journey has taught me a hard, but necessary lesson: sometimes the best response is simply presence. The deepest connections are often made not by a perfectly crafted sentence, but by just sitting with someone, listening to them, with an arm around the shoulder, making a genuine attempt at understanding.
The people who modeled this with me gave me the greatest gifts, and now I am earnestly trying to do more of the same myself.
Lord, help me.
Nutrition Nuggets with
Suzanna Hake
To Nourish (verb): the act or process of being nourished.
One of the best ways to set yourself up for success with healthy eating is by starting right at home…in your pantry. If the food in your kitchen makes it easy to choose nourishing options, you’re much more likely to stay on track (and enjoy it!).
So, let’s do a little pantry clean-out challenge!
Here are some common culprits to watch out for, plus healthier swaps that still taste great and fuel your body well:
Pantry Clean-Out Checklist
1. Refined White Flour Products
OUT – White bread, boxed cake mixes, processed crackers
IN – 100% whole grain bread/pasta, oat or almond flour, sprouted grains
2. Sugary Breakfast Cereals
OUT – Frosted or sugar-loaded cereals
IN – Steel-cut oats, overnight oats
3. Processed Snack Foods
OUT – Chips, cheese puffs, pretzels with white flour
IN – Air-popped popcorn, roasted chickpeas, nuts, or rice cakes with nut butter
4. Sugary Granola or Snack Bars
OUT – Bars with corn syrup and chocolate coatings
IN – homemade protein bars, or nut + fruit packs
5. Sugary Drinks & Mixes
OUT – Soda, powdered drink mixes, sweet iced tea
IN – Herbal teas, electrolyte drinks, water with lemon or cucumber
6. Refined Oils
OUT – Vegetable oil, soybean oil, shortening
IN – Olive oil, avocado oil, coconut oil (for baking)
7. Excess Sweets
OUT – Candy, packaged cookies, pastries
IN – Dark chocolate (70%+), dried fruit, dates with nut butter
8. Instant Noodles & Boxed Meals
OUT – Mac & cheese boxes, flavored rice/pasta mixes
IN – Brown rice, quinoa, whole wheat pasta with fresh add-ins
Try this: Pick ONE shelf, drawer, or cabinet this week and give it a refresh. Small steps like these really do make a big difference.
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Word of Encouragement
Pray, even with it isn't working.
To Encourage (verb): to give support and hope to someone so they will do or continue to do something
I read this quote and found myself thinking, I wish it were that easy… but I’m learning it’s not.
I am regularly disillusioned when I pray fervently and nothing goes as expected, and yet, ironically enough, there are also times when my prayer life is in the tank and God is gracious anyway. This reality confirms a crucial truth: prayer is not a magic trick, and God certainly isn’t a genie waiting to be controlled.
As much as I’d rather not admit it, I realize there are times where I treat my relationship with God more like a simple transactional equation – intense effort should equate to immediate, expected results, but it rarely plays out that way. Rather, I rediscover that He operates outside of my pre-proscribed formulas.
The point being, I believe prayer still matters immensely, but I see now that its power lies mostly in changing me. The wrestling, the devotion, and even the frustrating moments of silence are fundamentally about my own submission and alignment. Prayer shifts my focus from trying to manipulate external circumstances to cultivating my own internal character, teaching me humility, patience, and persistent trust.
When I pray, I’m accepting that God’s gracious response—whether it alters a situation or not—is primarily aimed at conforming me to His will, not mine.
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Thank you in advance for your prayerful consideration.
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Experiencing a cancer diagnosis is obviously a profound personal setback, and the added weight of self-blame can make it feel even heavier. While it’s natural to reflect on past choices and wonder if you have contributed to our own illness, getting stuck in a cycle of self-condemnation is a separate matter altogether. It’s crucial to acknowledge these feelings of guilt and remorse without letting them define you or impede your journey toward healing. This involves taking a thoughtful and compassionate approach to your past.
The first step in processing this guilt is to separate accountability from condemnation. It’s helpful to own the reality that some past behaviors may have been unhealthy, but this is an entirely different concept from believing you deserve this illness. You can acknowledge, for example, that a long-term smoking habit increased your risk of lung cancer without believing you are a bad person or that this is a form of punishment. True ownership means recognizing the consequences of past actions and committing to better choices moving forward. This is a path of learning and growth, not a cycle of shame.
The goal – and this is really important – is to shift your focus from “Why was I so foolish?” to “What can I do now?”
Next, it is vital to learn and practice self-compassion and forgiveness. Think of it this way: You wouldn’t speak to a friend with a similar diagnosis in a harsh and condemning way; instead you would offer them kindness and empathy. You must extend that same grace to yourself. Forgiveness isn’t about excusing past mistakes; it’s about releasing yourself from the burden of carrying them. You are a person who made certain choices – and yes, maybe some were unwise and irresponsible – but your diagnosis is not meant to define your worth. I am speaking to you as one who has had to work through these very same feelings.
I have resumed my journaling practice to process and release feelings of guilt. I also rely on spiritual friends and counselors for support, as they serve as vital extensions of grace and peace. When I feel stuck, they provide valuable insight and strength, helping me navigate my journey with greater clarity and compassion.
In summary, processing the guilt associated with a cancer diagnosis is a journey of intentional release and radical self-compassion. The key is to avoid the trap of self-blame by embracing accountability and then choosing to extend grace to yourself. By separating past actions from your current worth, you can free yourself from the weight of condemnation and focus your energy on healing, both emotionally and physically. Ultimately, this allows you to reclaim your own narrative and move forward with purpose and peace.
So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus…
Romans 8:1
Soul Care with
Pastor Jenn
To Pastor (verb): to shepherd, advise, and guide into a place of deeper spiritual understanding
“And Boaz said to the elders and all the people, “You are witnesses this day that I have bought all that was Elimelech’s, and all that was Chilion’s and Mahlon’s, from the hand of Naomi. Moreover, Ruth the Moabitess, the widow of Mahlon, I have acquired as my wife, to perpetuate the name of the dead through his inheritance, that the name of the dead may not be cut off from among his brethren and from his position at the gate. You are witnesses this day.”
Ruth 4:9-10
I’ve been studying the book of Ruth for a few weeks now. If you haven’t visited it lately, it really is such a beautiful, engaging story. I encourage you to go back and read it. The thing that keeps stirring in my mind is the idea Boaz was a “kinsman-redeemer”. Now, I admit I don’t understand all the ins and outs of this custom but what I do know is he had the responsibility within his family lineage to step in and care for a deceased relative’s family. He would keep watch care and provide for that family. It’s quite a role, honestly. Quite a responsibility.
The interesting part of the story is who he redeemed. Yes, he redeemed Naomi. And consider all he redeemed her from – a life alone, poor, bitter, without a husband or children. In every way that matters, he redeemed her future. But he also redeemed Ruth, who wasn’t even from his tribe or culture – or faith, for that matter. But he was gracious and saw a picture so much bigger than even Ruth herself imagined. He redeemed her past and her present and secured her a beautiful future full of children and grandchildren. It really is something.
As beautiful as Boaz’s redemption was, it points to an even greater redemption. It’s also a foreshadowing of all Jesus would do for us. He is OUR kinsman-redeemer. The only one who could possibly save us from our past, stand with us in our present and give us a future worth living – Jesus did it all. In light of the story of Ruth, I’m so in awe (again) of Jesus. I pray this week you would have that sense of awe too, knowing that your kinsman-redeemer holds every part of your life in his hands and is planning extraordinary, beautiful things for you.
Caregivers Corner With
Four Things to Remember
Caregiver (verb): One who provides direct support for one who is in need of practical help, encouragement and love.
When you’re helping someone else, it’s easy to get so caught up in their needs that you neglect your own. But as the old saying goes, you can’t pour from an empty cup. To be truly effective in helping others, you have to prioritize your own well-being.
Here are four things to remember to take care of yourself:
1. Self-Care Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary
Change your mindset. Self-care isn’t a luxury; it’s a vital part of caring for someone else. Think of it like a marathon – you can’t finish the race if you don’t refuel. Simple, consistent actions like getting enough sleep, eating well, and taking short breaks can prevent burnout and help you stay strong for the long haul.
2. Set and Enforce Clear Boundaries
Be realistic about how much you can give and communicate those limits. It’s okay to say no to certain requests or to take a break when you need it. By setting healthy boundaries, you protect your own emotional and physical health and prevent resentment. You’re teaching others how to treat you and ensuring your support is sustainable.
3. Ask for Help and Accept It
You are not meant to do this alone. Reach out to friends, family, or support groups. Many people want to help but don’t know how. Be specific. Instead of saying, “I need help,” try saying, “Can you bring a meal on Tuesday?” or “Could you sit with them for an hour so I can go for a walk?” When help is offered, accept it gracefully.
4. Find Moments of Joy and Connection
It’s easy to get lost in the challenges, but it’s crucial to intentionally seek out joy and stay connected to things that matter to you. Whether it’s a hobby you love, a favorite song, or a few minutes of quiet reflection, these small moments recharge your emotional batteries. Remember who you are outside of this role and make time to connect with friends or family who can support you.
Worship Moment
with Joel Salabarria
To Inspire (verb): to fill someone with the urge or ability to do or feel something, especially to do something creative.
Song: Back To You (Spotify and Apple Music)
Band: Michael Mudoh
From: “Back To You” (2025)
Sometimes the path feels unclear, but grace was guiding you the whole time. Every detour, every delay and even the silence, was God gently leading you back to His heart. Not because you earned it, or had pity for you, but because He never stopped loving you.
Let’s get back to HIM!
What if the prayers I prayed
Weren’t really meant for me
Cause My heart can lead me astray
You know what I really need
And the times that You told me to wait
Cause there’s more for me to see
So now I see
Lord it was You
Leading me to You
And I know it’s true
There’s nothing I can do
With you
You always lead back to You
Please help us out…
Take the Survey
To Encourage (noun): to give support and hope to someone so that they will do or continue to do something.
As we begin our third year of sharing stories through the Black Sheep Messenger and The Healing Chronicle, we’d love to hear from you. Yes… even you! Thank you for being willing…
Your feedback will help us understand what content is most helpful and meaningful to you, and what you’d like to see more of in the future.
If you haven’t already done so, please take a few moments to answer our quick, six-question survey. Your thoughts are greatly appreciated and will help shape the future of our newsletters.
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Nutrition Nuggets with
Suzanna Hake
To Nourish (verb): the act or process of being nourished.
Time for another of my favorite recipes, and with football season here, this is a snack favorite. Enjoy (guilt free) with MASA seed oil free Tortilla Chips!
Avocado Hummus Recipe
Ingredients
– 1 cup cooked chickpeas
– 1/2 avocado
–
1 clove of garlic
– 1 small bunch of cilantro
– 1/4 onion
– 1 Tbsp salt
– Juice of 1 lemon
– a pinch of cayenne pepper
– 1/2 Tbsp olive oil
Add all ingredients into a blender. Squeeze in the lemon juice, add salt and blend with water until you reach a creamy consistency.
The Serenity Prayer
To Pray (verb): Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. (Philippians 4:6)
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
While many are familiar with the Serenity Prayer, not many are familiar with its history. Over the years the prayer has been attributed to several great Christian thinkers including Thomas Aquinas, Augustine and Francis of Assis, but it was actually written less than a century ago in a cottage in western Massachusetts.
Reinhold Niebuhr was born the son of a German American pastor in Wright City, Missouri. He later became a pastor himself, serving a congregation in Detroit before moving to New York to teach at Union Theological Seminary, where he gained recognition as a theologian, activist and social critic. His brother, H. Robert Niebuhr, a well-known ethicist and theologian is best known as a founder of Christian Realism an approach to ethics grounded in the insight that human beings are called to strive toward their highest moral ideals, while recognizing our inability to fully achieve them. Richard writings deeply influenced his brother Reinhold who also had a poetic flair. And his infamous prayer beautifully captured the heart of Christian realism.
Piet's Ponderings
To Ponder (verb): to think about something carefully, especially before making a decision or reaching a conclusion.
I believe that starting the day with intention is crucial for setting ourselves up for success.
And I will concede that a good cup of coffee certainly helps, however, I’m becoming increasingly convinced that it takes more than that to prepare for the day’s challenges.
In fact, I have become very particular about thoughts and practices that begin my day.
My current routine is built around a very meaningful set of rituals. And yes, it starts with a good cup of coffee, but also includes reading, praying, stretching, plunging, and walking.
Beyond these physical practices, I find it helpful (even strategic) to make a definitive personal commitment (early in the day) to stay alert to the leadings and promptings of the Spirit throughout the day.
Because my daily purpose must be about something more than just making check marks on a to-do list; it must be about being present, open, and responsive to what truly matters.
Helping people…
Cultivating character…
Engaging in redemptive action…
Gaining the applause of heaven…
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Support the work!
The Van Waarde Foundation underwrites and supports a variety of projects related to supporting, educating, and encouraging fellow cancer warriors and their families.
Thank you in advance for your prayerful consideration.
https://www.patreon.com/c/pietvanwaarde
Experiencing a cancer diagnosis is obviously a profound personal setback, and the added weight of self-blame can make it feel even heavier. While it’s natural to reflect on past choices and wonder if you have contributed to our own illness, getting stuck in a cycle of self-condemnation is a separate matter altogether. It’s crucial to acknowledge these feelings of guilt and remorse without letting them define you or impede your journey toward healing. This involves taking a thoughtful and compassionate approach to your past.
The first step in processing this guilt is to separate accountability from condemnation. It’s helpful to own the reality that some past behaviors may have been unhealthy, but this is an entirely different concept from believing you deserve this illness. You can acknowledge, for example, that a long-term smoking habit increased your risk of lung cancer without believing you are a bad person or that this is a form of punishment. True ownership means recognizing the consequences of past actions and committing to better choices moving forward. This is a path of learning and growth, not a cycle of shame.
The goal – and this is really important – is to shift your focus from “Why was I so foolish?” to “What can I do now?”
Next, it is vital to learn and practice self-compassion and forgiveness. Think of it this way: You wouldn’t speak to a friend with a similar diagnosis in a harsh and condemning way; instead you would offer them kindness and empathy. You must extend that same grace to yourself. Forgiveness isn’t about excusing past mistakes; it’s about releasing yourself from the burden of carrying them. You are a person who made certain choices – and yes, maybe some were unwise and irresponsible – but your diagnosis is not meant to define your worth. I am speaking to you as one who has had to work through these very same feelings.
I have resumed my journaling practice to process and release feelings of guilt. I also rely on spiritual friends and counselors for support, as they serve as vital extensions of grace and peace. When I feel stuck, they provide valuable insight and strength, helping me navigate my journey with greater clarity and compassion.
In summary, processing the guilt associated with a cancer diagnosis is a journey of intentional release and radical self-compassion. The key is to avoid the trap of self-blame by embracing accountability and then choosing to extend grace to yourself. By separating past actions from your current worth, you can free yourself from the weight of condemnation and focus your energy on healing, both emotionally and physically. Ultimately, this allows you to reclaim your own narrative and move forward with purpose and peace.
So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus…
Romans 8:1
Soul Care with
Pastor Jenn
To Pastor (verb): to shepherd, advise, and guide into a place of deeper spiritual understanding
“And Boaz said to the elders and all the people, “You are witnesses this day that I have bought all that was Elimelech’s, and all that was Chilion’s and Mahlon’s, from the hand of Naomi. Moreover, Ruth the Moabitess, the widow of Mahlon, I have acquired as my wife, to perpetuate the name of the dead through his inheritance, that the name of the dead may not be cut off from among his brethren and from his position at the gate. You are witnesses this day.”
Ruth 4:9-10
I’ve been studying the book of Ruth for a few weeks now. If you haven’t visited it lately, it really is such a beautiful, engaging story. I encourage you to go back and read it. The thing that keeps stirring in my mind is the idea Boaz was a “kinsman-redeemer”. Now, I admit I don’t understand all the ins and outs of this custom but what I do know is he had the responsibility within his family lineage to step in and care for a deceased relative’s family. He would keep watch care and provide for that family. It’s quite a role, honestly. Quite a responsibility.
The interesting part of the story is who he redeemed. Yes, he redeemed Naomi. And consider all he redeemed her from – a life alone, poor, bitter, without a husband or children. In every way that matters, he redeemed her future. But he also redeemed Ruth, who wasn’t even from his tribe or culture – or faith, for that matter. But he was gracious and saw a picture so much bigger than even Ruth herself imagined. He redeemed her past and her present and secured her a beautiful future full of children and grandchildren. It really is something.
As beautiful as Boaz’s redemption was, it points to an even greater redemption. It’s also a foreshadowing of all Jesus would do for us. He is OUR kinsman-redeemer. The only one who could possibly save us from our past, stand with us in our present and give us a future worth living – Jesus did it all. In light of the story of Ruth, I’m so in awe (again) of Jesus. I pray this week you would have that sense of awe too, knowing that your kinsman-redeemer holds every part of your life in his hands and is planning extraordinary, beautiful things for you.
Caregivers Corner With
Four Things to Remember
Caregiver (verb): One who provides direct support for one who is in need of practical help, encouragement and love.
When you’re helping someone else, it’s easy to get so caught up in their needs that you neglect your own. But as the old saying goes, you can’t pour from an empty cup. To be truly effective in helping others, you have to prioritize your own well-being.
Here are four things to remember to take care of yourself:
1. Self-Care Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary
Change your mindset. Self-care isn’t a luxury; it’s a vital part of caring for someone else. Think of it like a marathon – you can’t finish the race if you don’t refuel. Simple, consistent actions like getting enough sleep, eating well, and taking short breaks can prevent burnout and help you stay strong for the long haul.
2. Set and Enforce Clear Boundaries
Be realistic about how much you can give and communicate those limits. It’s okay to say no to certain requests or to take a break when you need it. By setting healthy boundaries, you protect your own emotional and physical health and prevent resentment. You’re teaching others how to treat you and ensuring your support is sustainable.
3. Ask for Help and Accept It
You are not meant to do this alone. Reach out to friends, family, or support groups. Many people want to help but don’t know how. Be specific. Instead of saying, “I need help,” try saying, “Can you bring a meal on Tuesday?” or “Could you sit with them for an hour so I can go for a walk?” When help is offered, accept it gracefully.
4. Find Moments of Joy and Connection
It’s easy to get lost in the challenges, but it’s crucial to intentionally seek out joy and stay connected to things that matter to you. Whether it’s a hobby you love, a favorite song, or a few minutes of quiet reflection, these small moments recharge your emotional batteries. Remember who you are outside of this role and make time to connect with friends or family who can support you.
Worship Moment
with Joel Salabarria
To Inspire (verb): to fill someone with the urge or ability to do or feel something, especially to do something creative.
Song: Back To You (Spotify and Apple Music)
Band: Michael Mudoh
From: “Back To You” (2025)
Sometimes the path feels unclear, but grace was guiding you the whole time. Every detour, every delay and even the silence, was God gently leading you back to His heart. Not because you earned it, or had pity for you, but because He never stopped loving you.
Let’s get back to HIM!
What if the prayers I prayed
Weren’t really meant for me
Cause My heart can lead me astray
You know what I really need
And the times that You told me to wait
Cause there’s more for me to see
So now I see
Lord it was You
Leading me to You
And I know it’s true
There’s nothing I can do
With you
You always lead back to You
Please help us out…
Take the Survey
To Encourage (noun): to give support and hope to someone so that they will do or continue to do something.
As we begin our third year of sharing stories through the Black Sheep Messenger and The Healing Chronicle, we’d love to hear from you. Yes… even you! Thank you for being willing…
Your feedback will help us understand what content is most helpful and meaningful to you, and what you’d like to see more of in the future.
If you haven’t already done so, please take a few moments to answer our quick, six-question survey. Your thoughts are greatly appreciated and will help shape the future of our newsletters.
Link HERE.
Nutrition Nuggets with
Suzanna Hake
To Nourish (verb): the act or process of being nourished.
Time for another of my favorite recipes, and with football season here, this is a snack favorite. Enjoy (guilt free) with MASA seed oil free Tortilla Chips!
Avocado Hummus Recipe
Ingredients
– 1 cup cooked chickpeas
– 1/2 avocado
– 1 clove of garlic
– 1 small bunch of cilantro
– 1/4 onion
– 1 Tbsp salt
– Juice of 1 lemon
– a pinch of cayenne pepper
– 1/2 Tbsp olive oil
Add all ingredients into a blender. Squeeze in the lemon juice, add salt and blend with water until you reach a creamy consistency.
The Serenity Prayer
To Pray (verb): Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. (Philippians 4:6)
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
While many are familiar with the Serenity Prayer, not many are familiar with its history. Over the years the prayer has been attributed to several great Christian thinkers including Thomas Aquinas, Augustine and Francis of Assis, but it was actually written less than a century ago in a cottage in western Massachusetts.
Reinhold Niebuhr was born the son of a German American pastor in Wright City, Missouri. He later became a pastor himself, serving a congregation in Detroit before moving to New York to teach at Union Theological Seminary, where he gained recognition as a theologian, activist and social critic. His brother, H. Robert Niebuhr, a well-known ethicist and theologian is best known as a founder of Christian Realism an approach to ethics grounded in the insight that human beings are called to strive toward their highest moral ideals, while recognizing our inability to fully achieve them. Richard writings deeply influenced his brother Reinhold who also had a poetic flair. And his infamous prayer beautifully captured the heart of Christian realism.
Piet's Ponderings
To Ponder (verb): to think about something carefully, especially before making a decision or reaching a conclusion.
I believe that starting the day with intention is crucial for setting ourselves up for success.
And I will concede that a good cup of coffee certainly helps, however, I’m becoming increasingly convinced that it takes more than that to prepare for the day’s challenges.
In fact, I have become very particular about thoughts and practices that begin my day.
My current routine is built around a very meaningful set of rituals. And yes, it starts with a good cup of coffee, but also includes reading, praying, stretching, plunging, and walking.
Beyond these physical practices, I find it helpful (even strategic) to make a definitive personal commitment (early in the day) to stay alert to the leadings and promptings of the Spirit throughout the day.
Because my daily purpose must be about something more than just making check marks on a to-do list; it must be about being present, open, and responsive to what truly matters.
Helping people…
Cultivating character…
Engaging in redemptive action…
Gaining the applause of heaven…
Quick Reminder
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